I'm sure today's topic that I wish to bring up, may be taboo to a large group of people. Being given the opportunity listen to other bride-to-be's, close friends, and colleagues, this topic of the "bakal's", it could easily lead to creating a heated topic for people wanting to step in the world of marriage.

I'm not trying to say everyone will experience every single thing that should arise with the new family members, it's more of having to experience at least a dugaan or two between your future-in-laws. This does not limit to just your parents to be, it extends to, for some, those who have yet to be family to his family or her family (for the groom-to-be). AND sometimes these non-anomaly (dah normal dah tu sebab) is seen within your own extended family. 

Let's look at the big picture- Boy likes girl, girl likes boy, boy sees parents, both sides okay = Nikah  and reception that's super nice to be able to blow peoples' mind off and live happily ever after.

So this is the supposed beautifully painted picture. But I think some forgot that when you're getting married, you'll be getting married to his parents too, as well as the siblings and extended relatives of his.

sometimes, his relatives would show that they dislike you, and you're not even married yet, how? what about those who are not in his family, but has a negative influence to bring you down? what about parents who love the other in law more than you?

What do you think, should be done?